In the beginning

I am sure you have heard all the phrase from the time first time that you announced that you were planning to get married, those like you know it's all down hill from here,or she is going to let herself go after the "I do's", or even the famous he won't be opening any more doors for you after the first month. Well regardless of all the fore warning, and the bets among friends (and sadly some family) what transpires in your marriage is totally up to you and the one you choose to pledge this commitment to. Okay so we all know that the statistics say that the divorce rate is 1 in 2. That just sounds terrible but again it is up to you and yours (the now spouse) to make it work. Who said it would be easy? Nobody I hope, if they did I am just gonna say it they are tell you a story that ain't the truth (I don't generally like to call people the L word-liars).
Now you may say I have only been married a little while and things are going great,or we have been married for a couple of years and we have had no major problems. Well this is good to hear,but my position here is to give you cause, ideas and thoughts to keep it that way or balanced at the minimum. Another "traditional" statistical fact is that money or the lack there of is one of the main reasons marriages don't make it past the first year or two. This is why it is important to have some understanding of a person and their history in the beginning. Now this information is for all but I must say that I am not a fan of marrying someone you have never laid eyes on, or someone who has never been introduced to your immediate family or vice a versa, and maybe unusual but a big no-no too, someone that you have never disagreed with enough to have cause for an agreeable disagreement. Basically if you have not argued once face to face, you should not be getting married.
Now that we have established that we are all married to people we are some what acquainted with we can move on. More to come in my next post.